Hello, my brothers and sisters in Christ. We’ve made it to the end of the week. I pray you’ve spent your time living intentionally and with purpose. It’s a very special day for me. March 8th is my Wedding Anniversary. (Insert Confetti) It’s also the day that my husband and I met almost a decade ago. Being involved with someone for 11 years you tend to learn a few things. Through the ups, downs, wins, growing pains, healing, and BLESSINGS. I’m pleased to say we’re still going. More in love than before. Continually transforming into who God called us to be for each other every day. For this blog post I’m going to share an important concept when it comes to marriage. “Purpose Partnership” I know for a fact my husband is my Purpose Partner placed in my life by Jesus Christ. I pray that our story encourages those who believe God has placed someone in your life for Purpose. Blessings.
I met my husband (Nolan) March 2008. He took it upon himself to slide into my DMs on Black Planet. Lol. Some of you may remember this old dating site. I would like to say we had an instant spark, but we didn’t. The first month was a little sketchy. Getting in touch with him was hit or miss. At the time I was out of state with one of my mentors. Once I returned to Chicago we finally met. Our first encounter I made him breakfast. Eggs, pancakes, and bacon. It’s safe to say he enjoyed the food, because shortly after we started dating.
We would spend the next year inseparable. During that time a prophet spoke to us. She told Nolan God said, “You’re her future.” A few months after that prophetic word we broke up. I moved out of state with my family. We kept in contact. Spent the next several years as an “on again off again” couple. We held onto what the prophet told us, but never took the time to grow in God enough to see the manifestation of the words he spoke to us. How many times have you let what God spoke to you lay at the wayside, because it didn’t fit into your timeline? By November 2014 we were back “on.” I flew home to Chicago from Houston to see Nolan for the holidays. When I left to return to Houston he left with me. By March 2015, we were married.
I always knew I loved my husband in a way that I never loved anyone else. I couldn’t explain it. I just did. When we met all those years ago I was fresh out of a relationship that left me feeling unable to love. Then I met Nolan. He made me do what I thought I couldn’t do anymore. Open my heart. Even though we were involved for so many years we didn’t really know each other. If I’m to be honest we didn’t know ourselves. We were two people who always wanted to be together, but operated in generational curses, and mindsets. Like many other married couples, we had our growing pains. Two halves trying to be a whole instead of being a whole individually before we got married. Those pains hurt, but they didn’t break us. What they did do was cause us to seek help from the one who told Nolan, “You’re her future.” God!
By March 2018, we decided to give our lives to God. It also kicked off the discovery of our “Purpose Partnership.” A Purpose Partner is not something that you can Google for a definition. What I believe it to be is a person placed in your life that is directly connected to your God-Given Purpose. They’re CALLED to support, cultivate, and protect the seed that God has put inside of you. My husband is my “Purpose Partner.” When we gave our lives and marriage to God we were able to finally see the beauty of each other through the eyes of Jesus Christ. We gained clarity in our individual purpose and marriage. We grew in our knowledge of God and who He made us to be. One of the most important things we learned was how to be who we needed each other to be. My husband needed things from me that I wasn’t aware of until I grew in God. There were things that I needed from him that he wasn’t aware of until he grew in God. We both desired different things and we couldn’t obtain them the same way. God taught us how to be there for each other in a way we both could interpret.
Who’s your Purpose Partner? Has God called someone to support, cultivate, and protect the seed that He placed inside of you? Are you someone’s Purpose Partner? Are you being who God called you to be in their life? I had to pray for direction from the Lord about being my husband’s Purpose Partner. He gave me understanding about my role. I moved out of the way to let God be God in Nolan’s life. I don’t impose my timeline on God’s timeline in my husband’s relationship with Christ. I support whatever he desires to do. For instance, my husband wanted to learn to play the guitar around Christmas. I bought him 2 guitars. God provided the 3rd from another source. He’s working on starting a Financial Repair Company. I found courses for him to obtain his certifications and paid for them. Now he’s certified. I’m his Purpose Partner. I’m who God called me to be in his life.
To the man who is MY FUTURE. You’re everything I needed. You help grow me every day. God trusted you to care, love, and protect his daughter. He’s pleased with you. Thank you for exposing me to a life filled with kindness, compassion, trust, forgiveness, purpose, and love. Every moment with you is intentional. I will forever choose you. You lead me as God leads you. I love and thank you for a wonderful 4 years as Mrs. Nolan. I will forever be your helpmate.
Your Purpose Partner